On Loss

Earlier this week, my grandfather-in-law (“Nonno”) passed away. We knew it was coming. Back in June, the docs said he had just a few months left. His body was slowly shutting down, preparing the soul for the next journey, and he wouldn’t be with us much longer. When told the prognosis, he said, “Well, I’m 93 years old. What the hell do you expect?”

And even though we knew it was coming, even though it was expected, it still feels so sudden. As if time paused and everything that’s happened in the last 48 hours since we went to visit has actually been happening in slow motion over the course of weeks and months. I’ve lost a lot of family members in my 32 years -fourteen that I can recall off the top of my head- and it never gets easier. No matter the circumstances or how expected or unexpected it may be, it’s still tough and requires time to process. I want to share so many stories with you about him - all of his jokes and funny remarks (“I got shell shock in the war. I ate too many peanuts.”), his amazing World War II experiences, the beautiful-yet-hilarious story of how he and his wife of 68 years first met - but I can’t right now. Not quite yet.

It’ll be quiet around here the next few days as we grieve and remember and process all that has happened, but I do want to share one little video with you. Sometime during the first year of the Husband and I dating, Nonno started asking me the same question every time I saw him. “When is he gonna put a ring on your finger?” So when we finally got engaged after four and a half years of dating, we wanted to tell him in person and we really wanted to record his response. It’s my favorite video we have of him and I know I’ll watch it many, many times to come, even if just to hear that familiar loving greeting, “Oh, my granddaughter! Stephanie my granddaughter!”

Love you, too, Nonno.





  1. Oh that video makes me smile big. :) I'm so glad you have that and all of the wonderful memories of him. Nonno sounds like he was the best grandpa you could ask for! HUGS! <3<3

  2. So sorry about your loss. It's so hard to lose loved ones. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family. This video is precious. God Bless him!

  3. I'm so sorry for your loss and memories (and videos) like this are so precious. Thinking of you and yours

  4. I'm so sorry, Stephanie. I lost my dad last year, he was 91, and it was hard. Even though your grandfather and my dad lived long, full lives - it's never easy to let them go. I still have a CD of my dad singing(he was a musician) and like your video, all I have to do is hit play and he's right there with me again. It's wonderful to have been so loved, isn't it?

  5. Stephanie, I am so sorry to hear about this great loss in your life. Time to grieve, and think over those cherished times, is important - make sure you take lots of it. -one of your latest brides

  6. Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs your way. Nonno looks and sounds like he was a fantastic person, and that video is too precious. So glad you will have that forever and always. <3


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