Someone Once Told Me

Day 25: Something someone told you about yourself that you'll never forget.

It was my senior year of high school, the night before I was set to fly to New York City for college auditions.  I was a big drama nerd and had ambitions of being an acting major in college and winning my first Oscar and/or Tony by age 25.  That seemed like a totally reasonable dream to a 17 year old girl.

After my fellow seniors and I spent a few hours rehearsing our audition monologues for one last time, our drama teacher sat us down in the auditorium to discuss the logistics of the following day and what we should expect on our trip to the Big Apple.  This was going to be my first trip to NYC -a place I'd dreamed of visiting since I was in elementary school- and this was my one opportunity to get into college.  I had no other auditions arranged outside of this trip so if none of the schools wanted me, I was screwed.  You can imagine what my nerves were like at this point.  And for some reason my drama teacher chose that moment as the best time to tell me that, according to him, I'm "average height, average weight, average coloring.  There's nothing special about you so those monologues better be damn good if you expect to get in anywhere."

Well, that did nothing to calm my nerves.  And that hurtful (and in no way supportive or helpful) comment has stuck with me all this time, even 13 years later.  It was humiliating, insulting, and just flat out rude.  Funny how something that seems so insignificant to the speaker can have such a long-lasting effect on the listener.  If nothing else it taught me to be kind with my words.  I only wish someone else had learned that lesson, too, before he became a teacher.




  1. What a cruel thing to say. I felt the same about things that were said to me years ago. It is hard to forget isn't it.
    I hope you have a lovely weekend x

  2. DAYUM. Someone probably told him that one day, haha.

    Or maybe he didn't mean it as an insult but geez louise. That would scar me! Especially in our generation of "special snowflakes."

    But here's the thing: most actors and actresses are average looking (especially without the makeup). Plus, average is approachable, understandable, and relatable. Average means you have the most roles open to you because you can fit into them easily!!!

    I know that you probably aren't acting anymore or looking to act professionally, but there's also something beautiful in being relatable, too.

    PLUS YOU ARE SPECIAL! Obvi. :) Look at this blog and your business. (Okay, I know you didn't ask for a pep talk and this turned into one haha. I will stop now.)

  3. You are anything if ordinary or average. And I think you learned a valuable lesson at a vulnerable time. Shame on him and good on you :)

  4. I'm sorry you had to hear that. I don't think people realize how hurtful their words are going to be. Also, those flowers are gorgeous! So pretty.

  5. Ugh, what an ass. Sorry friend. Teachers really should be more supportive and less critical. Jerk!

  6. People can be such jerks -- and many of them have no business being teachers. That being said, it's obvious you are anything but average! And through your beautiful and stunning photography, you've obviously found your calling. He's a clown, and you're awesome. :)


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